I recently got bad news.
I feel like shit.
In my guts and in my soul.
I know you’ve been there. Some of you might carry this pain in your neck and jaw; for me, it feels like strangulation at the base of my belly. Like nausea that won’t escape.
Sometimes bad news is a result of actions we’ve taken, and we can find a solution. I’m a solver. I like to fix things. Fixing feels safer than feeling (hint: don’t believe this lie).
Unfortunately, many events in our lives are just circumstances outside of our control: circumstances like the health of those we love, decisions that other people make, how our family members behave, the news…
In my “old” life, before I knew how to manage my time AND my mind, I constantly kept myself busy—often unproductively busy, but busy, busy, busy. Sure, everything got done, but at what cost? I used hustle as a way to avoid feeling.
To avoid feeling, some people overdrink, overeat, or overconsume TV, but most of us have our escape. Mine was work and hustle.
These buffers can feel like a great way to avoid feeling bad, but truthfully, the bad was still there just below the surface because I never allowed it to work its way out. I never made space for feeling bad to be okay.
Recently, I got bad news, and I feel like shit.
But, I’ve retrained myself to normalize this. When I plan my week, I put myself first, so I have time to relax and re-center. Sometimes relaxing means sitting and wading through the shit until I come out the other side, and I’m here for it.
Contact me me if you would like to learn how even the hard parts of life can be a little less hard.
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